There are five unique but interconnected laws that describe and define the creation, maintenance and transformation of all of life. To know, really know, these laws requires that you step beyond the conventions of your culture and reach out to a bigger perspective. There is no chaos, there is only a circumstance we cannot understand. These universal laws take you a long way to the understanding you may be looking for.
The fifth law. The law of the one and the many.
There is one universe and many religions that describe it. There is one spirit within you and many ego personas that express it. There is one leader in any organization and many people who are employed to manifest it. There is one love in the human heart and many emotions that come to express it. There is one humanity on earth and many diverse cultures that fragment their uniqueness to celebrate it.
There is one sun in our sky, and many planets that are obedient to it. There is one government in our country and many laws to govern with. There is one ocean on our planet and many rivers to feed it. There is one earth and many mountains to divide it. There is one creation and many people to evolve it. We live beneath an umbrella. We can rise to the top of one heap, but only find we are now at the bottom of the next. We are always humble to the law of the one and the many.
You have many personas. Many ego identities. Some you hide, some you display. Characters you play. If you add the characters you hide, to the characters you display, to the characters you live in virtual reality to the characters you express in reality, you will find you are the one. We are the sum of the parts, and the sum of the parts is one. We are not different to anyone. We are all the same. Expressed uniquely in the way we demonstrate our fragments, but completely identical if we add those parts to become one.
The ego thinks it is the one, but it is a mere fragment. An emotion. The ego thinks it is separate to others and therefore unique. The ego thinks it can change but it cannot. The ego is a fragment, the spirit is the whole. Spirituality is to know that you are whole, one total being with many fragmented parts. Each of them incomplete, each of them worthy of love.
The forth law. The law of appreciation
What you appreciate gets bigger, what you don’t appreciate gets smaller. Appreciation builds, evolves and creates harmony. Lack of appreciation motivates self consciousness, self depreciation and self destruction. There is nothing to change, only something to appreciate. You cannot change, you can only appreciate yourself as you are. Appreciation is an attractive force, depreciation is a repulsive force.
From the vantage of the one, we see ourselves as many parts. Pain and self consciousness causes us to lose the perspective of the one, and fall into the many parts. Then, we cannot appreciate who we are, we try to change it. Anything we try to change has power over us, anything we appreciate we have power over. If you appreciate your lovers faults, they are not faults but beautiful assets. If you criticize and try to change someone, you are below them, they have power over you.
You have no fault. You are not broken. Neither is the world or your lover. There are something’s you might not appreciate. The problem is not with the thing, the problem is with your inability to appreciate that thing. Once you appreciate things, then they have no power over you. You are free. This is talent of a great lover. And the talent of the greatest Gods. They appreciate you.
The third law. The law of Abundance
There is nothing missing. It just changes in form. You have every character trait, some you express at work, some at home, some in virtual reality, and some in reality. You are everything you see and everything you dream. There is nothing missing in you or your beloved. Your judgements are false, they are your ego.
To separate yourself from others means you can criticize and blame them. But there is no them, there is no you. You are everyone you see, nobody outside of you is doing more to you than you do to yourself. You are not unique. You are, like everyone else. You have every trait, every characteristic. Delusion tells you that you can change or be different. Maybe you think you can be better than others, but in this one thought alone you prove that false. You are everything, and connected to everything.
There are five elements, Ether, air, fire, water and earth. All the universe is made of these five elements. So are you. There are varying degrees of each and this causes individual differences. But they are one soup. They are just energy in different states, different forms, you have them all, in varying degrees. You are, like the universe, complete. Matter evolving from earth to ether. Nothing is ever missing, it just changes in form. We are all shy. Some at work, some at home, some in regard to money and some in regard to change. We are all shy, nothing is missing.
The second law. The law of growth.
Chaos causes change. Chaos stimulates challenge and confronts the status quo. Chaos breaks deadlocks and promotes change. Order on the other hand rests us, gives us time to absorb and digest, to take it all in, to master our space, to become good at what we do.
Too much order and we stagnate. Too much chaos and we burn out. Growth occurs at the border between the two. The purpose of love is growth. Love is both chaos and order. Growth means to convert chaos to order. Chaos is what we don’t appreciate. Growth therefore means to convert those things we don’t like into those things we do like. That is how we get more love. We take what we don’t appreciate (called chaos) and turn them into things we do appreciate (called order)
In a relationship there is a perfect balance of support and challenge. Challenge is chaos (things we don’t appreciate) and support is order (things we do appreciate). When we first meet our lover, there are more things that we appreciate than we don’t appreciate. This is called infatuation. After some time there can be more things that we don’t appreciate (challenges) than we appreciate (support). Then we resent our partner and want to leave. But the truth is that there is always a perfect balance of support and challenge in life. We were just blinded in the beginning.
The first law. The law of balance
There are two sides to every coin. This is how we convert issues we don’t appreciate to issues we do. How we turn chaos to order. We see the other side of the coin. There is always a silver lining in every cloud. So, there are always two ways to see things. One way is to see the dark, the other way is to see the light. The wise person sees both but then focuses their mind on the light. The emotionally disturbed person tries to eliminate the dark, thinking it will go away.
For every thing we move from dark to light, a new balance is created. So the more light we see, the more happiness we have, the more fun, the more peace, then, the more dark, the more sadness, the more un-fun, the more drama we have. Duality is the cause of emotion, and there cannot be an upper without a downer.
To break the mould means to see two sides. For example in our western culture you might say laziness is bad. But in the Spiritual Culture, laziness might be exactly the same as mindfulness. Or contentment. In the west we see inspired and enthusiastic as good, in the Eastern language we might call those same behaviours running away, unable to be in the moment, lacking stillness. There are two sides to everything. Relabel those things you don’t appreciate. Find the blessing in them. They can’t be eradicated, only appreciated.